I recently had the opportunity to talk with Vanessa Patrick, whose book, The Power of Saying No: The New Science of How to Say No That Puts You in Charge of Your Life, is coming out today (June 1, 2023). Vanessa is a professor of marketing, Associate Dean for Research, and Lead Faculty for the Executive Women in Leadership Program at the Bauer College of Business at the University of Houston.
Love how you use the walnut tree. I'm never going to forget that i think.
The 'I dont' versus 'I can't' seems to make a distinction between identity and circumstance. One is lasting, the other is fleeting. Saying I don't wards off persistent queries like among friends who want you to have that extra drink or dessert, for example.
Often we say yes to a request for coffee two weeks later but will say no to one tomorrow. I heard Emily Balcetis from NYU describe is as the choice between feasibility (when tomorrow) and desirability (when in the distant future). I would love to know your take on how a persepctive of time affects yes/no decision.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Vanessa, and for doing this interview, Annie.
Love how you use the walnut tree. I'm never going to forget that i think.
The 'I dont' versus 'I can't' seems to make a distinction between identity and circumstance. One is lasting, the other is fleeting. Saying I don't wards off persistent queries like among friends who want you to have that extra drink or dessert, for example.
Often we say yes to a request for coffee two weeks later but will say no to one tomorrow. I heard Emily Balcetis from NYU describe is as the choice between feasibility (when tomorrow) and desirability (when in the distant future). I would love to know your take on how a persepctive of time affects yes/no decision.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Vanessa, and for doing this interview, Annie.